Most people have doubts about their looks and abilities, also how they are taken by others. Do you fall into that category?
By Maria Gul Laraib
From a skilled doctor whose advice we follow blindly, to a confident inspirational speaker, self-confident people have qualities that everyone approves.
Self-confidence is very significant in almost every domain of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Unfortunately, this can be a cruel circle as people who lack self confidence can find it hard to get success. Even nobody relies on a less confident person when it comes to pass on some responsibility.
While, one gets impressed by someone who speaks fluently, behaves confident, gives his opinions with assurance, and willingly admits his/her faults.
Self-confident people stir confidence in the people around. A confident person achieves success by winning the trust of the people. The best thing is that self-confidence can be achieved by doing a little effort. Let’s have a look what leads to a confident personality.
- Do you like your own personality?
- Do you believe your skills are of some use?
- Are you capable of taking pressure?
- Can you digest criticism?
- Can you handle people showing negativity about you?
- Do people give you importance?
- Do you feel good on others’ success?
- Do you consider yourself successful?
If you have responded ‘No’ to most of the questions given above, it may be the case that you are a victim of less confidence.
Most people have doubts about their looks and abilities, also how they are taken by others. Do you fall into that category? If so, you have plenty of company!
“My imperfections cause me to feel down. Usually, I am my own worst critic.”—Zara
“No matter how pretty or handsome you are, you always come across others who are better-looking.”—Fahad
“I get very self-conscious around others. I am scared that I’ll look like a looser.”—Saleeha
If you identify with the above statements, don’t feel sad. You can get help. Go through and try to follow the tips given below:
Give of Yourself
There is more happiness in giving than receiving. Meaning thereby, when you help others, you help yourself too. One should not help others with a motive to get something in return.
Think of someone you have helped in the past. Who was the person and how did you feel afterwards? Think of someone else you could help and how could you assist that one?
A true companion loves all the time, and proves to be a hope when there is distress. What it means is that a good friend can be a wonderful support in bad times. So try to be in the company of those who have a positive vibes towards you. Sometimes the most important thing is, knowing that someone sincerely cares.
Think of the name of a friend who might boost your self-confidence in a healthy way.
Make arrangements to spend some time with the person who you named in your head. The person doesn’t have to be in your age group, it can be your mother, uncle or grandfather as well.
Bounce back from your mistakes
There is no harm in accepting that you’re imperfect. That means there will be times when you will say or even do wrong things. While you can’t avoid making mistakes, you can control how you amend them. Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up.
Sometimes you feel low when you compare your weakness to another person’s strength. Everyone has good and bad qualities. Be proud of the good and work on the bad. Don’t tell yourself such things as “I always fail and I never do anything right.” Such overstatements only keep you down. So, acknowledge your shortcomings but also recognize you strengths. Don’t use imperfection as an excuse. A person can be very good-looking and still feel ugly or a person can be less attractive and think he or she is the best-looking person around. It is all about attitude.
Your True Value
People who love you can see the true value in you that you may not see by yourself. But do your imperfections change that? Well, imagine that you had Rs.5000 with a small tear in it. Would you throw it away or view it as worthless because of that tear? No way! It’s still worth 5000 with or without a tear.
It is similar with your close one’s view of your worth. Your flaws don’t blind them to your value. So take that positively and as an encouragement. By doing this, you will be able to know your worth because your original cannot be replaced.